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Quit Discrediting Yourself!

I was sitting in one of my classes here at BYU Idaho and the speaker got me to thinking...

He was a great speaker, but throughout his whole talk, he kept making comments such as him being ugly, or a bad speaker, or "you have to suffer through me talking..." etc.

IT DROVE ME CRAZY!!

If you are going to be putting yourself down like that, why are you speaking in the first place?! He was a great speaker but if he is going to reassure us from the very beginning that we have to "suffer through" him talking, of course people are going to tune out.

Here is a tip: No matter how bad a speaker or how ugly you think you are...Don't apologize for it! What that does is make people tune out from the start and it totally discredits you. You are a college professor, so act like it. Even when you are not a college professor, you don't need to apologize before you say anything. It's ok not to be perfect.

DISCLAIMER: He actually gave a great talk, and I learned a lot, but it got me to thinking how often people 'apologize' for being them. AND most of the time, if you don't tell people you messed up, THEY WONT NOTICE!

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