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Forgiving

I have found that many people chose not to forgive an offence because they feel that the offender doesn't "deserve it".

FALSE!

Forgiving is not about them. Forgiving is for you...
You see, withholding forgiveness is like drinking poison. Even when the other person has moved on and possibly even forgiven you, if you are still holding on to that anger and hate, it eats you up inside.

I only say this because I know the feeling...and it's not worth it. Don't give that other person power to control your emotions. Believe me, life is so much brighter and light without that weight of dark feelings clouding your vision.

My mom gave me a phrase to repeat whenever I feel those negative feelings start to creep back in. I suppose as a way of easing my subconscious into believing it.

Here it is: "I love you, I'm sorry, I forgive you, Thank you"

What does this statement mean? I love you means you are able to recognize that they are a Child of God, and that despite their imperfections He still loves them. 
I'm sorry means that you are sorry for withholding forgiveness. Many people don't like that phrase because it sounds like you are admitting to wrong, but if in some cases there was no wrong on your part it simply means that you are sorry for not forgiving them. Or even telling yourself sorry for withholding that opportunity to be happy. 
I forgive you-pretty self explanatory but an important thing to state out loud. Forgive as the Savior does, completely. If this is too hard to do alone, don't worry because Christ is there to help. Pray your heart out, and keep praying. 
Thank you  is a little bit more of a challenge. Why are we saying thank you to one who has hurt us? Here is why: Because by going through that experience, chances are you learned something. Am I right? For me I learned the type of guy I do NOT want in my future. In every challenge there is an opportunity for learning. So thank them for giving you that opportunity. Just a thought.
If you are not to that point maybe just thank them for the good moments. or for simply getting out of your life...But ya know ;)

Thought of the day: Forgive and life is so much happier! :)

The End

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